White girls (and parents) need black dolls too

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After reading Kelli Goff’s article, “Why it matters that Angelina Jolie’s white child plays with a black doll“, I thought about how I’ve gladly bought black dolls for the black girls in my life but not for the white children I know. As difficult as it is to admit, I think I was afraid to deal with the reaction to the dolls. Continue reading

Freebie Friday: Siemens Stem Academy

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There are a lot of companies out there that offer free educational material but not lot of them devote a whole website to it. Siemens, a multi-national engineering company, does just that for kids and parents who are interested in S.T.E.M fields. The site is called the Siemens STEM Academy and it’s full of amazing FREE resources for students and teachers. I like that it’s a dedicated resource which is always being updated since S.T.E.M. are dynamic fields. Here’s some information from the site:

    About Siemens STEM Academy

    The Siemens STEM Academy is a partnership between the Siemens Foundation, Discovery Education, and the Oak Ridge Associated Universities. This special partnership supports an initiative devoted to providing professional development for educators in the rapidly evolving areas of science, technology, engineering and mathematics.

    Siemens STEM Academy gives teachers an online portal teeming with resources that support them in their lesson planning and implementation, while exposing them to new and ground-breaking learning methods and approaches to teaching STEM concepts.

    Through webinars, the STARs program and the Siemens STEM Institute, the Siemens Foundation, Discovery Education, and the Oak Ridge Associated Universities have created a unique place for teachers to learn, share and discover the latest in STEM education.

Siemens also has another site that I just love because it allows kids to put into practice what they have learned. The site is called “We Can Change” and challenges kids “to create sustainable, reproducible environmental improvements in their local communities.”  I am a big fan of kids learning theory and practice together because learning through doing makes a lasting impression and for younger kids, science projects make science fun and approachable.

Check out the site and let as many people know about it as you can because we NEED black children in S.T.E.M. Please let me know in the comments if you know of any other free S.T.E.M. resources or let me know by email and I will post it on the site.

Give the gift of unconditional love this Christmas

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I’ve spent the last few weeks trying to find a Dusty Crop-hopper remote controlled plane that actually flies because that is the only thing my boy says he wants for Christmas. I consider this year, his fifth, to be our first real Christmas with him because he is able to anticipate the holidays and remind me every, single day that all he wants for Christmas is that airplane. I even had to send a text message to Santa to remind him of my child’s singular request.

Well, I called around, searched online, and then found out that there is no such thing as a “flying Dusty Airplane”. I was pretty bummed even though my boy is the type of kid who will end up playing with a box or wrapping paper and be just fine. I had placed an artificial pressure on myself because I wanted to make his first real Christmas “perfect” so the topic of the latest “Love and Logic” newsletter felt like kismet. The folks over at Love and Logic reminded me not to let the holidays distract me from what truly matters:

    The Most Beautiful Gift: Never-Ending Love
    Have you noticed how much effort some folks put into finding just the right Christmas gifts for their child? I bet you know someone who doesn’t think twice about spending endless hours – or even days – scouring store shelves for that awesome action figure, digital doodad, or doll their child has been wanting.

    Let’s think about it. Is there anything wrong with this? What’s the problem with spending lots of time and energy looking for neat and nifty Christmas gifts for our kids?

    Nothing. But…

    What happens when we exert more energy on finding these gifts than showing our youngsters what a gift they are to us?

    Ouch! I’ve done this. Yes, I’ve fallen into this trap! I’ve worn myself out trying to make things perfect and have forgotten the most perfect gift of all: the expression of never-ending, unconditional love.

    We’re all wired to need it. All of us yearn for a relationship with someone who will love us forever, regardless of how stinky we behave. Isn’t this the greatest gift we can give our loved ones? Isn’t this what Christmas is really about?

    During this Christmas season, my hope is that you’ll…

    Spend more time playing with your kids than you spend shopping for them.

    Remember that the gift they really yearn for is you.

    Hug them and smile into their eyes as often as possible.

    Show them through your never-ending love what a precious gift they are.

If you found the Love and Logic newsletter as timely as I did, let me know in the comments. Remember, try not to be too hard on yourself.

(I’m not affiliated with Love and Logic. I just love their program.)

The Fake ADHD Epidemic

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I’ve never really bought into the idea that ADHD was as prevalent as the media made it seem because it just didn’t seem plausible that American children would be more afflicted with this order than kids from other parts of the world. For instance, only .5% of French children are diagnosed and medicated ADHD compared to 15% of American children. For a while most of the stories in the mainstream media only discussed the rise in the ADHD diagnoses not the challenges to the diagnosis that mostly came from crunch granola types. However, there seems to be an uptick in the number of articles that are challenging whether there is an ADHD “epidemic”.

In a recent New York Times article, Dr. Keith Connors, the psychologist who identified the symptoms we now know as ADHD, blasted the handling of the disorder. He feels that there is no “epidemic” and that the correct diagnostic rate of  ADHD should be 5% not the current 15% of high school students. The article seemed to suggest that there has been a sort of collusion between doctors, who legitimated the prescribing of ADHD medication to children, and the pharmaceutical companies. Here is a synopsis of the article:

  • Scientists estimate that real ADHD affects around 5% of children, but the CDC says that 15% of high schoolers have been diagnosed, and the number of children on ADHD drugs has risen from 600,000 in 1990 to 3.5 million today. So what’s driving the diagnoses?
  • Millions are spent on ads, some targeted directly at children or parents, saying that ADHD drugs like Adderall will improve performance in school and even inspire kids to take out the garbage. The FDA has repeatedly told drug companies to withdraw such ads, and one company, Shire, agreed this year to pay $57.5 million in fines for improper advertising and sales of drugs.
  • Drug companies also target parents through sources that seem independent, like teachers and support groups. Two parents near Seattle put their child on Ritalin for 3 years because teachers—who had received materials from the drug company Ciba—pushed them into it. “I definitely felt seduced and enticed,” said the father. “I’d say baited.”
  • You’ll hear that ADHD is a lifelong condition, but at least some doctors who say so are on Big Pharma’s payroll. And studies show that about half of ADHD kids don’t have the disorder as adults. Meanwhile, drug companies are successfully targeting the adult ADHD market.

Although black children are diagnosed for ADHD at a lower rate than white children, we still have to be vigilant. Whenever the white establishment pushes back in these types of situations, companies tend to move on to greener pastures and in this case, it would be our kids. As a black parent, that means you need to do your research and exhaust ALL your options before accepting an ADHD diagnosis for your child. Drugging a young brain must always be a last resort.

I would really like to hear from parents who are dealing with this issue. Please leave your feedback or tips in the comments and feel free to share this post on social media.

Beyoncé isn’t your child’s parent so stop being outraged

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    In an article about possible backlash against “Beyoncé”, Vivienne Pattison of the parent watchdog group, Mediawatch-UK, voiced her displeasure that Beyoncé can no longer be seen as a role model and that children will be able to watch the videos on Youtube. Well, I’m outraged at the outrage! Beyoncé only released an album, she didn’t become our kids’ parents. That’s still our job. I certainly understand being concerned about the creeping sexualization of children but I am concerned that we are becoming a nation of passive parents who whine instead of policing our children’s media consumption.

Freebie Friday: Free Beginning Reading and Math Programs

If there’s one thing home-schoolers love more than free resources, it’s sharing information on those free resources with everyone which why I love the home-schooling community. This week, I heard about a great website, Funnix,  that is offering for a limited time, free downloads of their beginning math and reading programs. There’s no catch and a quick google search will show that Funnix has a great reputation in the home-schooling community. I think their downloads will be helpful, however, for even if you are not home-schooling because it is an easy way to supplement your child’s education after school. I am a big supporter of active after-schooling because I don’t think it’s a good idea to rely entirely on schools to educate our children.

Here’s what Funnix has to say about their free offer:

    Funnix Beginning Reading and Funnix Beginning Math are very user friendly computer-based programs. A narrator directs the activities in each 25-35-minute lesson. A child or a small group of children watch the computer screen with a parent or teacher. The children answer questions the narrator presents. The parent or teacher reinforces correct responses and directs the program to repeat parts that were difficult for the children.

    Signing up for the free download is simple. All you do is fill out a form and submit it. You will then receive an email with all instructions on how to receive the program. No hidden charges, gimmicks, or costs for handling and shipping.

Happy Freebie Friday! I hope you’ll find this resource helpful.